Wednesday 3 June 2020

कठपुतली समाज


एक कहानी सुनाता हूँ
ज़रा ध्यान से सुनना
यह महामारी की कहानी नहीं
यह इंसानियत की कहानी है
इसलिए ध्यान से सुनना |

एक परिवार निकल चला था
गाँव से गाँव, गाँव से शहर 
बड़ी इमारतों के बीच 
लोगों की हलचल के बीच 
गाड़ियों के शोर के बीच | 

मगर अनजान थे इस बात से 
कि ये शहर किसी का नहीं 
न ये आपकी परवाह करता है 
और न उन लोगों की 
जिन्होंने इनकी इमारतों को बनाया है | 

ये शहर बस लोगों का झुंड है 
कहने को तो सब इंसान हैं 
पर शायद इंसानियत नहीं 
अब ज़रा आप ही देखिये 
कि ये कैसी इंसानियत है | 

कल ही मैंने अपनी इन आँखों से देखा 
जो शायद मैं देख न सका 
मैंने उसी परिवार को देखा 
जो शहर आकर कहीं खो गए हैं 
जिस शहर में उसका कोई अपना नहीं | 

तभी तो 
जब सब अपने घरों में बैठे थे 
तब ये परिवार घरों के बाहर 
अपने घर जाने की 
उम्मीद लगाए बैठा था, सिर्फ उम्मीद | 

क्योंकि ये शहर इनका नहीं 
यहाँ के लोग इनके नहीं 
सच बताऊँ तो 
इस शहर में तो कोई किसी का नहीं 
और इंसानियत? बिल्कुल नहीं | 

तो क्या?
शहर जाना छोड़ दें 
ये तो असंभव सी बात हुई 
क्योंकि शहर है तो देश है 
बिना इसके प्रगति कैसी?

फिर उस परिवार का क्या?
ये एक विडंबना है 
परिवार प्रगति का हिस्सा है या नहीं?
किसी को नहीं पता, पर 
प्रगति के बीच वो परिवार कहीं खो रहा है | 

                                                            ये सिलसिला शायद कभी न रुके 
                                                          प्रगति और परिवार की ये नोक-झोंक
                                                                   निरंतर चलती ही रहे 
                                                                     और यह समाज?
                                                      कठपुतली की तरह अपना खेल खेलता रहे || 

Tuesday 14 April 2020

5 Lessons learnt from the COVID-19 crisis situation


Probably, this is one of the most unprecedented situations witnessed by humankind. We have heard that some countries, due to disease, war or terrorist activities, had to face some form of lock-down in the past. But, hardly one would have ever imagined that a submicroscopic infectious agent called ‘Virus’ could cause such misery for humankind. 

Surprisingly, every billionaires, every rich nation, every militaristically powerful nation, seem to have surrendered in one way or other. No nation could claim to have successfully tackled the crisis. Some of them would be expecting that new ‘season’ could help in killing the virus, in the absence of much concrete scientific data. 

However, as the phrase goes, “Every cloud has a silver lining', we also need to sit down and think for the positives in this situation!! As humans, who have the unique ability to think, it is time we use this ability to understand the situation and evaluate ourselves. For, it is this evaluation about our way of life which will help us to prepare better and make our lives more live-able, post this COVID-19 crisis. 

In my personal life, I have thought of the following things. It’s not that we do not know these ideas and values. However, till the time we don’t come across a situation like this, we fail to realize the value of so many important things in life.

Firstly, it is amply clear that ‘Simple Living’ is possible, and even desirable. What I understand by simple living is that- we can survive, and survive with dignity, even without not-so-necessary material things. We have seen that in India, people are surviving with bare minimum items and somehow living their lives. 

The sad part is that we fail to give a thought towards them. We become so selfish, sometimes, that if we do not get what we want in our lives, we start cribbing and complaining. By virtue of being rich and privileged, we generally take things for granted. 

Secondly, we invest most of our resources in becoming further rich, famous. No doubt, this is not something to be critical about. But, in this process, sometimes, we compromise on utmost important things in life- relationships, which are not, literally, ‘things’. 

We generally see and hear big businessman, administrators, managers, CEOs, professors or others saying to their family members, “Sorry, I don’t have time to meet, as I am having business meetings”. When business meetings become more important than “family meetings”, we can imagine our attitude towards the important aspects of life. 

Thirdly, I also learnt that “all humans are equal” in terms of everything. It is we who differentiates for our selfish reasons. For some Christianity is best, for others Islam is the best and so on. However, Virus did not leave any section untouched. The simple reason is- Nature never differentiates. It is we who does!!

Entire humanity has become one in this situation. It is not possible to tackle this situation alone. But, why don’t we follow this in normal times? How come some people guide the entire humanity and they are able to create fissures among our own people. It is a pertinent question to be pondered over. This situation provides an opportunity. 

Fourthly, the situation also taught me that we must help the less-privileged ones in the society. The vulnerability of some people does not get revealed during normal times. But, it is not that they are not vulnerable. In the process of acquiring wealth for ourselves and our family, we must not forget the larger section. 

Most of us belong to very humble family. But, overtime, we do well in life and become successful and enjoy all the privileges of life. Is this because we are the gifted one? Or, it is because we have done greater hard-work than most of the other people? The obvious answer is NO! 

Then, what is the reason? The simple reason is that many people in society have helped us in one way or the other. Some gave us loan to complete our education. Government of India gave us scholarship to study in one of the premier institutes of this nation. Many others gave us emotional support. Some other helped us with academics. It is the collective effort of society which helps in preparing its member. We would do great injustice to them if we don’t give back to them in one way or the other. 

Last, but not the least, it teaches us to be humble and grateful in life. Life is highly uncertain. The UK Prime Minister is admitted in ICU. So, unfortunate things can happen to anyone. Hence, life is impermanent. This fact needs to be remembered every day. We must pray to the divinity to keep us, our family and the larger society healthy. And, we all have a role to play in this regard. 

Thursday 3 January 2019

ब्याह का रिश्ता

22 अक्टूबर 1991 - मधुबनी के अरेर बिशनपुर गांव में एक परिवार में बेटी ने जन्म लिया। बेटी की किलकारी सुनकर घर में खुशी का माहौल गूँज उठा। पापा, चाचा और अन्य सभी रिश्तेदार मिठाई खिलाकर पूरे गांव वालों से बेटी की लम्बी उम्र की कामना कर रहे थे। माँ बेटी को सीने से लगाकर कह रही थी - देखो, घर में लक्ष्मी आयी है। माँ की बात को सुनकर पिता ने बेटी का नाम लक्ष्मी रखने का फैसला भी तुरंत ले लिया। दादी की सहमति भी मिल गयी। 

लक्ष्मी को खूब लाड दुलार से रखा जाने लगा। समय बीतता गया। लक्ष्मी की पढ़ने लिखने की उम्र भी आ गयी थी। घर में गरीबी का साया भी था। पापा खेत में मज़दूरी करते थे। माँ को सिलाई आती थी। पर सिलाई मशीन न होने से आमदनी नहीं हो पाती थी। जो पैसा सिलाई मशीन के लिए माँ ने जुटाया था, अब उसी से बेटी को पढ़ाने का फैसला लिया गया। 

गांव के एक स्कूल में लक्ष्मी को दाखिल करवाया गया। लक्ष्मी मानो सरस्वती की छवि हो। बुद्धि और ज्ञान से भरपूर लक्ष्मी ने स्कूल में हर कक्षा में सफलता प्राप्त कर ली। लक्ष्मी अब बारहवीं कक्षा में दाखिला ले चुकी थी। 

मोबाइल का युग आ गया था। अन्य छात्र-छात्रा की तरह लक्ष्मी का ध्यान भी उस मोबाइल पर रोज़ पंहुच जाता था जो स्कूल के शिक्षक महोदय के पास था। लक्ष्मी अपने सीट से उठ-उठ कर शिक्षक महोदय के पास जो मोबाइल था उसको देखने की कोशिश करती रहती थी। शिक्षक महोदय को इस बात का आभास भी हो चुका था। 

एक दिन लक्ष्मी ने बहुत हिम्मत जुटाकर शिक्षक महोदय से मोबाइल दिखाने की प्रार्थना की। शिक्षक महोदय लक्ष्मी को एक होनहार छात्रा समझते थे। उन्होंने लक्ष्मी की बात मान कर अपना मोबाइल लक्ष्मी को दे  दिया। लक्ष्मी के हाथ काँप रहे थे, मानो उसके सारे सपने सच हो गए हो। लक्ष्मी की नज़र एक न्यूज़ चैनल की महिला जॉर्नलिस्ट पर पड़ी। लक्ष्मी उस जर्नलिस्ट को देख काफी मोटीवेट हुई। 

स्कूल से घर जाते वक़्त लक्ष्मी को वही मोबाइल और उस जर्नलिस्ट की छवि दिखाई दे रही थी। हो भी क्यों ना, लक्ष्मी पहली बार किसी महिला को इतनी कॉन्फिडेंस के साथ बोलते हुए जो देखा था। लक्ष्मी ने मन ही मन एक जर्नलिस्ट बनने का सपना भी साध लिया। 

घर पहुंच कर लक्ष्मी काफी सोच-विचार कर उस फैसले को आयाम देने की रणनीति भी सोचने लगी। रात हो गयी। घर के सभी सदस्य खाने के लिए बैठे थे। लक्ष्मी ने अपनी मन की बात को व्यक्त करने की प्रार्थना की। 

पापा बोले- "क्या बात है बेटी, कोई परेशानी है?" लक्ष्मी बताने लगी- "पापा, आज मैंने एक महिला को टीवी पर बोलते हुए सुना। मुझे उनको देख बहुत अच्छा लगा। मैं चाहती हूँ की मैं भी उसी महिला की तरह एक दिन टीवी पर बोलूं।" माँ तो खुशी से फूले न समायी। पर पापा के चेहरे पर खुशी दिखाई नहीं दी। पापा शायद समाज के नियम से ज़्यादा वाक़िफ थे। 

बावजुद उसके पापा ने लक्ष्मी और माँ के हाँ में हाँ भर दी। पर पापा के चेहरे का रंग कुछ उतरा हुआ लग रहा था। लक्ष्मी इस बात से बेफिक्र थी। उसे तो सबकी  सहमति मिल गयी थी। लक्ष्मी ने पुरे मन से अपने लक्ष्य को भेदने की तैयारी करने लगी। शिक्षक महोदय को भी यह बात बड़ी जची। उन्होंने लक्ष्मी को हर तरह की मदद देने का निर्णय भी ले लिया। 

लक्ष्मी अब ग्रेजुएशन में दाखिला ले चुकी थी। उधर किसानी करते करते पापा की उम्र भी बढ़ती जा रही थी। तबियत भी कुछ ठीक नहीं रहती थी। आमदनी से कोई बचत भी नहीं होती थी। किसानी से जो आमदनी होती थी वो लक्ष्मी की पढाई में और घर के अन्य जरूरतों में लगा दिया जाता था। इन सबके बीच पापा को मन ही मन एक बात खाये जा रही थी  "लक्ष्मी की शादी के लिए दहेज़ कहाँ से लाऊंगा?" 

लक्ष्मी एक होनहार छात्रा थी। यह बात गांव में सभी को पता थी। उसी गांव के एक महोदय लक्ष्मी के ग्रेजुएशन कॉलेज में प्रोफेसर थे। उनका नाम मोहन रघुवीर था। प्रोफेसर रघुवीर बहुत ही चर्चित व्यक्ति थे। क्योंकि समाज में वही सबसे ज्यादा पढ़े लिखे थे। सभी उनको बहुत सम्मान देते थे। प्रोफेसर रघुवीर लक्ष्मी की लगन देख बहुत प्रभावित हुए। वह लक्ष्मी को मन ही मन अपनी बहु बनाने की कल्पना करने लगे। 

प्रोफेसर रघुवीर ने अपनी धर्मपत्नी से भी इस बात की चर्चा की। धर्मपत्नी को यह बात बहुत अच्छी लगी। उन्होंने तुरंत हाँ भर दी। प्रोफेसर रघुवीर लक्ष्मी की पापा से यह बात चर्चा करना चाहते थे। कई महीने बीत गए। मुलाक़ात नहीं हुई। 

अब प्रोफेसर महोदय ने उनके घर जाने का ही फैसला लिया। प्रोफेसर किसान के घर जाकर अपना प्रस्ताव  रख दिया। लक्ष्मी के पापा को इस बात की इतने खुशी हुई मानो उनको दूसरा जीवन मिल गया हो। हो भी क्यों ना। प्रोफेसर ने दहेज़ लेने से जो मना कर दिया था।  

उसी रात घर में सब एक साथ खाने बैठे थे। तभी यह बात पापा ने सबको बतायी। चाचा चची ताऊ सभी बहुत खुश हुए। सब यही कह रहे थे- "लक्ष्मी किस्मत की बढ़ी तेज़ है। इतना अच्छा रिश्ता तो किस्मत वालों को ही मिलता है।" 

पर किसी ने लक्ष्मी से सहमति भी नहीं ली। लक्ष्मी चुपचाप अपने कमरे में जाकर बिस्तर पर लेट गयी। आँखों में आँसू और मन में टूटे हुए सपनों की बात सोचकर एक कोलाहल सा था। लक्ष्मी इस बात को अच्छे से समझती थी की व्याह के बाद कोई उसे पढ़ने और टीवी पर आने की अनुमति नहीं देगा। 

सुबह उठ लक्ष्मी घर के काम करने लगी। उसके चेहरे की मानो रौनक सी उतर गयी हो। माँ से बेहतर इस बात को कौन समझ सकता था। माँ की आँखों में भी आंसू की झलक साफ़ दिखाई दे रही थी। लक्ष्मी पापा को देख अपने भारी स्वर में बोली- "पापा, मुझे जर्नलिस्ट बनना है।" पापा ने जवाब में कहा- "ब्याह की तैयारी करो।"   

Tuesday 26 June 2018

Modernisation in 'modern' India

Most of us might have heard people saying- India has become "modern". Modernity has several connotations. However, the modernity that is generally dominant in today's world is derived from European society. The value system that they propagated throughout the world is being considered as the only meaning of modernity. However, as we move forward, we will see that this conception of modernity is too narrow. For instance, one of the ideas is that a modern society is one which do not give much emphasis to "traditional" practices. In a way, it means that shifting from traditional practices is a sign of getting modern. Undoubtedly, some facets of this statement are correct.

For instance, the shift from the traditional practice of caste based occupation and rigid hierarchy, initiated especially in the Later Vedic Period, is indeed a sign of modernity. Focus on rituals which made humans submit to a higher priestly class is also withering away. Even greater focus on hardwork for prosperity on Earth and not on the after-life phenomena, which is beyond the understanding of our sensory organs, is a modern principle. However, a deeper analysis reveals that modernity is at its infant stage in Indian society. Also, analysis says that there is misconception about modernity in our society and most of the times, it is corroborated and confused with the ideas of Westernisation. The focus on this article is to explore these misconceptions to find out the root cause of the same and what lied ahead in store for India.

To start with the same, lets first understand modernisation. There is no authoritative definition as such of modernity. Nonetheless, it can be described as a principle which fulfills the promise of
1. Equality and equity of human beings,
2. Individualism- so that they can realise their potential and not be bogged down by the rigid norms of society;
3. Achievement based society
4. Rational thinking- and not base our thinking on religious dogmas and superstitions

As far as equality is concerned, it is at best an 'ideal' concept having little or no practical applicability. There is no example of perfect equality present on this Earth in the context of human civilisation. In economic sense, for instance, equality would have meant the resources available are equally distributed. This is basically a "communistic" idea in the Marxist sense. In political sense, in would have meant equal representation to various section in a heterogeneous society. In a homogeneous society, one can consider equal representation for male and female members. But, it is a fact that women parliamentarians comprises of only a certain percentage, in India it is around 10-12%.

The next best concept is of "Equity". It means those who are more backward, provide them more resources so that they can become equal to others in due course of time. This idea was considered to be of prime importance by the founding fathers of our Constitution. Hence, it finds mention in the Directive Principles of State Policy (DPSP) of the Indian Constitution. However, at the ground level, one can very clearly see that those who are rich are able to multiply their assets at a faster pace and poor are becoming more backward and poorer. Where is equity then? The next Q that begs answers is- where is modernity?

Coming to the rise of individualistic tendencies in the society- this novel idea has been unable to stand to its aspirations and expectations. In traditional Indian society, family acted as a source of guiding light to an individual and also for providing support to prevent their alienation from the society. In the present time (I am using present and not 'modern'), there has been significant increase in cases of depression, suicide, individual-led violence etc. If not enough, our well educated individuals are finding themselves caught in the web of "social media" sites as they have very few people to talk to and share experiences as a consequence of the decline of family and community culture. The community culture is fast degrading and social media is acting as a new community. The only difference is- most of the people do not know others on social media. In some extreme cases, some people have shared their live videos of committing suicides when they fall out of any relation. Our individuals have become so weak mentally. Is this the New India we are aspiring for? Those who are expected to take the burden of the nation on their shoulders are giving life for no useful reason.

It is true that I am looking at only one side of the picture. It can be argued that many individuals have also excelled in their fields. No doubt this is true. However, why am I not focusing on them is simply because- with greater progress and prosperity, this is what is expected out of individuals.  There are rising opportunities. With this there are rising problems. We are expected to resolve them. Hence, my concern is regarding those who in-stead of giving direction and shape to their youthful energy are finding it difficult to find solace in the fast and haphazardly changing society. And, I see the reason in the increasing focus on individualistic tendency sacrificing out tradition of family norms and values.

Connected to the above idea of individualism is achievement orientation. Achievement is a good idea. Everyone likes achievers. However, as an Indian, what we want to achieve? The "American Dream" focuses on having a high package and salary. Material achievement is considered as achievement in true sense in the Western Society. Undoubtedly, being a colony for 200 years under the western societal rule, we have also inherited a colonial mindset and connect material prosperity to achievement. There is nothing wrong in having material prosperity. However, the Q is at what cost are we achieving material prosperity? Mindless prosperity is certainly not modernity. WHY am I calling it mindless?

This is because, in the pursuit of gaining material, we tend to forget the basic purpose of life- a life of dignity, a peaceful life, a life of being worthy, a responsible life and being empathetic towards others. The capitalistic class rarely follow these principles. But the motive becomes profit at any cost. In this selfish motive, they forget the environmental integrity, women's dignity, Tribal's identity and above all Humanity. Not only the capitalistic class, the political class is no way less responsible for the same. Which sane society would allow a 2G to happen? Certainly not a modern society. Some people sell their aatma, dignity and conscience, for the purpose of material prosperity having influenced by western culture.

Not all is bad with the western culture though. For instance, their secular credentials are relatively better than our society. There are certain values in western society which we, as a society, have failed to borrow and follow. for eg. their humanistic values are worth emulating. Many of my friends who have visited some western nations say that people respect each other irrespective of their occupations, position in the society etc. In India, we have not succeeded on this parameter.

Sadly, we have been witnessing the degradation of human values in India and the applicability of its extreme versions of-late. Man is attaining the peak of cruelty. The recent case of Hapur Lynching in Uttar Pradesh has crossed all the boundaries of humanity. This incident was certainly not the idea of the propounders of modernity. No doubt, this can be called an exaggeration and the incident can be ignored by calling it an "isolated event". However, the brutality and the punch to the collective conscience of the society cannot be ignored.

In all of the above discussed issues, the main sufferer is the common man, the vulnerables. A smaller chunk can always find solace and protection in their shell of money, power, prestige. Hence, while modernity centres around welfare of humanity, the practice at the ground level is far away from the ideas of modernity. What do we need to so to get out of this confusion?

In my opinion, India would be doing good if it keeps intact its tradition. Tradition should not only be seen in a negative light. For that matter, even DEMOCRACY is also our tradition. In present time, there is no better form of government than this tradition. Moreover, respecting teachers, elders etc are our tradition. These values must be merged with our quest for modernity in the truest sense of the term. Blind imitation of western society will not work for us. A society has its own DNA. Naturally, it will behave and grow differently. It is important to recognize our own identity and try to strengthen it rather than simply emulating foreign values. For instance, Material prosperity should not be at the cost of humans. Ultimately we have to survive with other humans. If the poor suffers, it is a threat for the larger interest of society. 

Sunday 11 March 2018

Women ≠ Men in Indian cricket?

The recent contract of players announced by The Board of Control for Cricket in India (BCCI) generated lots of enthusiasm among the netizens and other general masses in equal measure. The subject was bound to generate such excitement as the wage between the male and female cricketers was starkly unequal. Here is the list-



Some of them even went to the extent of calling the BCCI as "misogynist". Others too criticised BCCI with even more harshness. It is understandable and even a good sign that people are voicing their concerns for women's rights. In a society like India, which is predominantly patriarchal, such  support for women from different corners is indeed a very progressing sign and a moment of celebration. However, before judging BCCI in this particular aspect, let us pause for a moment and take a step backward to understand the various aspects of Indian cricket.

In this respect, firstly, let us understand that men's cricket was not built overnight. The victory at Lords in 1983 was one euphoria moment for the Indian men's cricket.  Since then, the men's cricket has progressed in small steps to the current position of arguably the world champions. The men's team at present even holds the 2007 ICC World Twenty20, the 2011 Cricket World Cup, the 2013 ICC Championship Trophy. The women's cricket is yet to touch these feats which their counterpart has achieved. They are yet to produce a Sachin Tendulkar or a Kapil Dev or a MS Dhoni. 

Secondly, even looking at the present situation, the bashing on social media seems to be less-than-justified. This is because men's cricket players play for an average of 250 days cricket. This takes a heavy toll on their family life, physical fitness. Moreover, they are continuously under scanner and cannot afford even a single error. Otherwise, the over-enthusiastic media personnel and also the cricket-loving people do not leave any stone unturned in giving sudden verdict. A quick recap would make us remember that players home had been stoned or blackened by overzealous cricket fans. Such instances of madness, if I may call so, has not been observed in women's cricket even at an iota level. Not that I want the same for them, but I am taking this example to simply compare the level of progress the men's cricket have made in a challenging ecosystem.

Thirdly, and most importantly, the men's cricket is much more organised at present. There is a complete system viz. domestic and international cricket. The domestic level cricket is well-established with greater competition. For eg. The Ranji Trophy was started in the 1934-1935 itself. There are other tournaments as well to prepare the domestic players for the international matches. Some of them include the Duleep Trophy, Irani Trophy, Deodhar Trophy and so on. The plate is full for all round development of the male players in India at various age groups. However, there are not many domestic competition for women. Two of them are- Senior Women's One Day League and Inter-State women's Twenty20 Competition. All this suggests that the competition level among male players are way greater than female cricket. 

In my humble opinion, therefore, the focus should be on improving the women's cricket. In this case, BCCI has a greater role to play. The beginning has already been made. The match fees at the domestic level cricket has been increased. This has, as the former Indian Women Cricket captain Ms. Diana Edulji says, the potential to attract players from the grassroot level, from the small town who look for certainty and stability in career. 

Moreover, as is also being suggested, there can be inter-school tournaments in every city, talent hunt programs in every village can be launched so as to look for promising players, who do not come out of their comfort zone due to lack of awareness and a holding hand to support them. Not only this, the Board also needs to introduce training for the selected and motivated ones. In this respect, the former captain held that a plan is being made to train the players at the National Cricket Academy in the domain of pace bowling, spin and wicket-keeping.


Well, in the medium-term then, the BCCI should also collaborate with the broadcasters to make the reach of women's cricket more broad-based and accessible to the general public. People should be able to watch the game of cricket with same enthusiasm that is witnessed in case of men's cricket. In this direction, sooner than latter, India can also introduce Big Bash League (BBL) or Indian Premier League (IPL) like competition for women in India as well. Success in the IPL shows that India has the ability to venture in this direction as well without much difficulty. 

At the end, only the performance speaks. If players keep performing well, it is certain to generate interest among the cricket-lovers. The 2017 world cup runners-up tag should only become a launching pad and not an event to compare the wages between male and female cricketers. As the number of win increases, the pay gap will automatically decrease and might even become equitable in the near future. However, till the time such situation arises, let us all enjoy and support the #womeninblue to scale new heights in future.

Sources:
1. http://www.deccanchronicle.com/sports/cricket/110318/cricketing-wage-gap-in-focus.html
2. https://www.thequint.com/sports/cricket/gender-pay-gap-in-cricket-mithali-raj-virat-kohli
3. http://www.espncricinfo.com/story/_/id/22718443/india-women-make-pay-grade-last
4. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women%27s_Big_Bash_League